Ezer Kenegdo

I am currently reading ‘Captivating’ by John and Stasi Eldredge. I usually have trouble relating to books for women, as I find them cheesy and dripping with sugary romance. I don’t relate well to such things. Though I find the study guide that accompanies the book to be just that, I am surprised by the book itself. I may be ahead of myself, as I am only in chapter two, but this chapter articulates well what God whispered to my soul when I became a Christian.
I have met many Christian men who seem to be of the opinion that women are less important, less intelligent, and less capable than man- after all, woman was made from him, and second. I feel sorry for these men. As a woman, I am well aware of the void that exists without the female contribution.
“…And God created the human in his image, in the image of God he created him, male and female He created them…
And God said to them…”(excerpts from gen. 1:26-28)
John Eldridge takes special note that WE were created in the image of God, and God spoke to both Adam and Eve when issuing the command to be fruitful. He then discusses Genesis 2:18- “The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
He says the words used to describe the creation of Eve are ezer kenegdo. Ezer is only used 20 other times throughout the Old Testament- and the person being described in every other instance- God Himself. The circumstances- extreme desperation for God to come through, or save. (for a couple of examples, see Psalm 20:1-2 and Psalm 33:20) Kenegdo means alongside/counterpart. So, a more accurate translation, as opposed to suitable helper, would be ‘lifesaving counterpart’.
So, do I think women are more important than men? No way! I love my husband, and I know he also serves a lifesaving role for me! I have been married for 9 years, and I know how vital we are to each other. When God created man and woman in His image, he gave us hearts and minds that function very differently- but collectively represent the completeness of a Holy God. So many women in our society have the ‘who needs a man’ attitude. Sure, you can do everything yourself, I know that. I saw my mom do it for years. She was forced to, and she did an awesome job. But it isn’t meant to be that way. There is a balance, strength and protection that is lacking when we are alone. So many men think women are there to serve them, since they (men) are superior and more intelligent. How sad that these men lack the spirit, passion, beauty and balance that a woman brings. I have learned so much from my husband. I respect his calm temper, discernment, and ability to apply the Word of God to our lives daily. He has learned to turn to my time management, keenness to others’ needs, and passion in our service to Christ. When we respect the calling God has given us for what it truly is, not what we make it out to be, I believe we are that much closer to understanding who God is- and He lacks nothing.